Now, I happen to have a fabulous friend who is home schooled but she actually get's out and get's involved! I swear this boy at camp has never been in normal society. He eats leaves, talks to trees, and behaves in a quite girly and young manner. I swear he makes my 7 year old cuz look like... oh idk, the Queen of England. Like that serious if ya see what I mean. Not english or a girl just serious. ANYWAY, I believe this home schooling is a bit of a danger. The boy was sooooooooo not prepared for being around us.
Listen, I know you all know damn good come backs and if you don't you are quite good at adressign matters. It sounded like he was taking advice from a therapist. Somebody was picking on him a bit (which i totally don't think is cool) but he's like : "I don't like you calling me names, being hit, or treated mean." Honestly, it's nice, but WHO DOES THAT?!?! No, what you need to do is say: "hey, can you please just bugg off? I don't appriciate you getting on my case."
Where was I now? Oh, so yes, this kid was not prepared. He was christian and very devoted but just because you're christian doesn't mean you can't cuss someone off. I held my tongue at the camp as a matter of respect but I don't think the boy had ever sworn in his life. Why not?! WHY THE FRICK NOT!? It teaches those around you to respect you. I mean, I don't go around calling people fugly to their face. That is REALLY mean, but telling someone "go screw a cow" when their bugging ya is efficiant.
Home schooled students aren't prepared in language, behavior, or dressing. How can they be expected to live in the world when their adults. His parents were a bit foolish to raising their boy in a such a way. I also believe the vegan life style stunted his growth. He's a fricken shrimp!!!
The world (esp. the jr. high world) is a place that if you can't hold up you're head (or you don't have the friends to help) you're shark bait and let me tell you, that shark ain't gonna show now mercy.
So after seeing this boy, I wonder, what are Dani's girl's like? Are they prepared for the real world. Do they know that the word "damn" is ok?! Do they know that jeans are all the rage and not loin cloths? Do they know that rebels are usually liked and preps are despised? Do they know that sometimes people don't care what you're favorite color is and want to talk about making-out skills? Now, I don't think Dani's kid are teenagers yet but they will. They will encounter others wether in the mall or at a camp. What are you going to do Dani? You can't hold their hands forever and imprison them. I am sure that Jesus would agree, you must let them to feel and think for themselves a little more because I get the sense that they don't. God gave humans free will so they could learn and decide for themselves and if they do it right, go to heaven. You can't force it upon them.
What would you do if one of you're children decided her heart lied with a woman in her later days????
I will be greatly interested to see responses on this matter.
Thanks
~Taylor
p.s. what would you rather talk about? favorite colors or who is better at making out?
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Hi Taylor - It's good to have to back to bloggerville. I just wanted you to know that I read your post and I will respond to it in detail tomorrow.
P.S. You shouldn't want to talk about who is better at making out at your age - You're too young to be doing that, don't you think?
Dani,
making out? hm, maybe so. it's not like i am going to.... but so what's wrong with chatting?
how is a girl supposed to have fun if she can't gossip about who's better at kissing?!
note: i consider "french-kissing" along making out. i don't know what everyone else considers making out... just wanted to say that.
good to see you dani.
:)
Wow good post. Im sure you're going to get an earful from the homeschoolers. I myself am not a believer of homeschooling. True a good school is hard to find, unless you're rich and can afford private school. But even private school doesnt guarantee anything.
People are different, some like night and day. I've often wondered what you said about Dani, since CP came out and wished her kids would become lesbians. We may think we can control our children and mold them. But eventually they become their own person, with minds of their own. I hope she realizes that and will still love them no matter.Because all in all Im sure she's a good mother.
Taylor - Sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday, I just wanted to take the time to answer all of your questions about homeschooling. I will try to keep my answers brief for the sake of space, but if there is something else specific you want to know, feel free to ask.
"Home schooled students aren't prepared in language, behavior, or dressing. How can they be expected to live in the world when they are adults?"
Actually, studies have proven for a fact that homeschooled kids do far better in accademics, language, social skills and behavior than public school kids. If you want to see some studies, I can provide them for you.
"The world (esp. the jr. high world) is a place that if you can't hold up you're head (or you don't have the friends to help) you're shark bait and let me tell you, that shark ain't gonna show now mercy."
I fully realize that jr. high schools are increasingly hostile and competative to such a degree that most students have anxiety disorders, depression and loss of self-esteem as a direct result of the uncessary stresses that come with the jr.high social life. This is one of the reasons why we don't send our kids to public school because we do not want them to experience the harassment and violence that goes on.
"So after seeing this boy, I wonder, what are Dani's girl's like? Are they prepared for the real world. Do they know that the word "damn" is ok?!"
No, my girls are not prepared for the "real world" as the are still very young children who need several years of dedicated training to make sure they are confident in the Lord and fully equipted for the battle before I send them out to the wolves. And as for foul language, unfortunately they hear bad words come out of my mouth all the time, and they know that it is NOT okay to have a potty mouth - even if mom does it.
"Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips." - Proverbs 4:24
"Do they know that jeans are all the rage and not loin cloths? Do they know that rebels are usually liked and preps are despised? Do they know that sometimes people don't care what you're favorite color is and want to talk about making-out skills?"
No, my children do not place value in materal things or name brand clothes. They are happy being children, playing with other kids in the dirt and they are content to wear the clothing they have because they already know that the clothes do not make the person valuable. They also don't talk about "making out" because they know that sexual relationships are only for marriage.
"They will encounter others wether in the mall or at a camp. What are you going to do Dani? You can't hold their hands forever and imprison them."
No I cannot hold their hand forever, but I sure can protect them for as long as they are children in my home. When we encounter objectionable or obscene behavior outside the home (which we do all the time), we simply explain to our children that it is wrong and we shouldn't do that because of reasons a, b and c.
Plus, since I have taken the difficult road through life and learned my lessons the hard way, I know how to avoid the same mistakes with my children and I will go through great links to protect them from harm. I would never want my children to experience the same horrors I experienced while growing up in the public school because I love them too much and I want what is best for them. I am their mother - who could possibly love my girls more or care more about their physical, emotional and spiritual well-being than their own parents? (Besides God of course.)
Taylor - Do you think your teachers care more about you than your own parents?
"I am sure that Jesus would agree, you must let them to feel and think for themselves a little more because I get the sense that they don't."
Obviously you do not know my children or the dynamics of the homschooling family relationships to truly appreciate the rewards it has to offer. My children are the most happy, obedient, intelligent, secure and loving children anyone has ever met. And BTW - they love to eat meat too! In future discussions, perhaps we can go into more details if you are truly interested.
Jesus said in Matthew 18:6 - "But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea."
By sending kids to public school I am opening up many opportunities for them to stumble by getting involved in drugs, sexual activity, rebellion and ultimately rejecting God.
Jesus also said in Luke 11:23 “He who is not with Me is against Me.” Neutrality is impossible with the Lord. Either we are going His direction, or we are not. We either teach our to children love, honor and obey God, or we send them to a place where God is irrelevant.
I cannot be for Jesus while sending by children to be educated by His enemies. It would be foolish and irresponsible of me as a mother to willingly hand my children over to practical strangers, knowing full well that they will teach my girls the very things which are contrary to our most cherished beliefs.
We love and honor God and we want to raise our children to do the same. God's design was for the family to be together. Children should never be forced away from their home to learn about life at a pagan seminary, apart from the loving guidance of their parents.
"God gave humans free will so they could learn and decide for themselves and if they do it right, go to heaven. You can't force it upon them. "
God did give humans free will, but He also said that "foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child" (Prov. 22:15) and He says that "a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother" (Prov. 29:15).
God gave parents the responsibility to train up their children in the ways of the Lord all throughout the day, from the time they rise up to the time they go to sleep.
"Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. " - Deuteronomy 6:5-7
How can parents diligently teach their children about God when they are away from home nearly 8 hours a day, five days a week being educated by a godless government school?
While we cannot force our beliefs upon our girls, we will teach them right from wrong in such a way that they will desire to please God and obey His commands later in life. I will not however, let the public schools force their unholy agenda upon my kids. If anyone is going to teach my children the values of life, it is going to be me or my husband, not some morally bankrupt teachers.
Personally, I do not want my girls become "bi-sexual" or daydream about making out when they are 14 yrs-old. Taylor, when I was your age, all I wanted to do was talk about making out too, and by the time I was 15 yrs-old I was pregnant and had my first child. When I was 17 I became "bi-sexual" and got involved in all sorts of sexual perversions that nearly destroyed my life. I do not want that for my girls or for you because I actually care about you, believe it or not.
God is clear in His Word that when you train your children up in the ways of the Lord, when they are older, they will not depart from that teaching.
"Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." - Proverbs 22:6
If you would like to read more about why public schools are so bad and why we believe homeschooling is God's design for the family, you can go to my other blog BUREAUCRATIC DAYCARE to learn more.
Sorry this is so long - I hope this helps you understand more from a Biblical perspective.
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P.S. If it is okay with your parents, you are welcome to come on the radio show to talk about whatever you want. Also, if you don't want your name and age to be public information, then perhaps you should not have a blog where anyone can read it?
Miranda,
Thank you for commenting. :)
Taylor
Dani,
your talking how you don't want your kids to go to a public school for many reasons including that it's not 100% all about God. I'm sorry but that just seems a little riduculous.
you also said something about statistics prove that home-schooled kids are well equipped for the "real world." i don't believe it. they cannot stand up for themselves. they need to be exposed to more.... otherwise whatta they gonna know?
you learn from mistakes. if you snatch away those chances to even make a mistake, how will they learn??? hm? books? no. that is not real learning. experience and of course, the bible. of course, i'm sure you're children are fully active in the 2nd (the bible) but what about mistakes. it just sounds as if you're over protective.
i don't want to dwell on this topic too much longer because my mind will not change but i'm just saying i think home-schooling is tricky business.
thanks again,
tay
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